Cheating and Infidelity..

are NOT okay.

I don't really comment on such issue unless I know you personally well but recently, I heard more and more cases of people cheating on each other (be it male or female). I am super against infidelity and I am very firm on this. I can never understand why someone would want to cheat. If you don't love your current partner, then just break up and move on to whoever you are newly in love with. What's so difficult with that? Why must one be involved with SO many partners at the same time? 

(1) One of my friend had been with her boyfriend for a decade and towards the end of their relationship, he cheated on her (for a few years with different girls) and everyone knew about it other than my friend. (2) Another friend got cheated and went on a rage with different girls (3) This girl cheated on her boyfriend (kissed him - very mild case la) and is currently attached but constantly telling her ex-boyfriend that she will dump the current boyfriend for him if he will take her back (4) Another one lead a double life and has been constantly lying to both her boyfriend and fling about it (5) Numerous stories I heard when my colleagues (who are attached) are overseas and the list goes on..

So what is the issue with cheating and infidelity? Does it really thrill one so much to cheat? I really don't understand. If you are attracted to another person, it just simply meant you no longer love the current one and he/she bores you right? Why be so selfish and insist on having the current and pursuing new ones outside. And it really suck too that friends knew about it and keep numb about such issue. I am guilty as well (and it caused me a lot of problems so I learnt from it and moving on, I will never keep numb about it la. It's just wrong, morally.)

My point is that if both parties are not exclusive and both are willing parties, it is totally fine. But if you forced someone to be exclusive and yet you are fooling around outside, it is really unfair and crazy right? Especially now that I am always not in Singapore, I find that it is really hard to trust people? I do not really think any of this issue exist in my past till perhaps him (but I'm not too sure too la, just hear say). Whatever it is, human should just learn to be less selfish. You are causing unnecessary hurt to your loved ones when you cheat. What happened to loyalty and eternity? 

And NEVER take back someone who cheated on you before. A leopard never changes its spot. If they cheated on you once, they will do it again and again. They will. Because they know you will take them back eventually. They will never change. It's like you can never ask a dog to meow instead of woof what. It's just within them. And please, if you get cheated on, please do not have the mindset of screwing every other male/female on this planet. What good does it benefits you? 

Remember, Karma.